Flirting with self-devotion shrinks the space between inspiration and action.

On rest, pleasure, execution, and why magnetism requires movement.

There’s nothing like running a warm bath after a long day of having your brain on and a thousand tabs open. It’s like my little pocket of pleasure that I look forward to, especially on those busy days (corporate baddie here, still manifesting full-time entrepreneurship). Maybe I’ll add some roses, maybe I’ll spritz Burberry Goddess over the water. Either way, I can’t wait to devote some much-needed time to myself this evening.

After soaking for a bit, I reach for my current read, Communion by bell hooks. Before I can even open the book, an idea begins to flirt with me. Ooo! It almost feels like a baby crush; my cheeks blush, and a smile appears across my face. I grab my phone, open the Google Doc app, and flirt back.

All month, I’ve been circling around the idea of flirting with yourself, flirting with your creativity, and flirting with the way you feel to strengthen your magnetism.

Flirting with self-devotion includes rest, pleasure, movement, connection, and nervous system regulation. Not doom-scrolling or people pleasing.

Self-devotion is when you intentionally engage in an activity because it honors you and makes you feel good, not further disconnecting you from yourself.

When I am intentional about flirting with self-devotion, ideas begin to flirt with me. My higher self begins to flirt with me. Inspiration. Curiosity. Motivation. The urge to try something new.

“The more I flirt with self-devotion, the more my higher self flirts with me.” - Ryen.

Instead of interrogating the idea, I flirt with it. I hold on to it, brain dump in my notes app, or even start a Google search. I flirt with the idea the same way I’d flirt on a date. I’m not committed, there’s no pressure, I’m simply observing how I feel.

That night in the bath, it was a Friday, the idea was about “Manifesting Feelings, Not Things.” By the time I got out, I had a rough draft. Saturday afternoon, I edited for about an hour, then recorded a video sharing the same story. By Sunday afternoon, it was posted. I remember when I would hold on to an idea with all my might, waiting for perfect timing. The space between inspo and execution would take weeks, even months.

Flirting with creativity is the execution: the writing, the doing, the posting, the sending, the sharing. That’s it. You are not flirting with the way it is perceived.

Your focus is the assignment given to you by your higher self.

Completing is the accomplishment. Sharing is the accomplishment. Trying is the accomplishment. Conquering your fear of being seen and overcoming self-doubt is the accomplishment.

Doing what the heck you said you were going to do is the accomplishment!​

Then repeat, go back to flirting with self-devotion, and do it all again!

Flirting with self-devotion leads to flirting with ideas, which leads to flirting with creativity. Repeat!

There were soooo many moments when my debut book, Creating Your Chapter Harmony, could’ve stayed an idea.

Solely because I was scared of being seen.

I share so many personal stories in this book. I literally asked myself: Do I really want this in print?

I was overthinking.

I was doubting myself.

I was thinking about everyone’s opinion before it even existed!

Yes, I was scared, but something deep, deep inside me knew I had to do it anyway.

Because when your higher self is flirting with an idea, it’s usually because there’s a timeline in which that idea catapults you to a new level.

Creatively.

Spiritually.

Financially.

“You can’t use up creativity; the more you use, the more you have.” - Maya Angelou.

Now we are in celebration mode as the assignment reaches the audience it’s meant for. Remember: that is not your responsibility.

When an idea flirts with you, you can either: Overthink. Spiral. Compare. Get discouraged by fear and self-doubt. Delay. The longer you sit in the space between inspiration and action, the louder the fear becomes. Or, you can flirt back. Execute on the feeling. Release. Repeat. Return to celebration and flirting with self-devotion.

The world is begging for KPIs. Metrics, data, comments, likes, shares, followers. You post something you’re proud of and immediately start refreshing your screen. Three hours later, 47 views and 2 likes. You spiral. Now your likes are turned off on Instagram because you couldn’t bear it. You compare it to your last post. You wonder if you should delete and try again.​

Could I offer you a new perspective? What if the only KPI you focused on was how quickly you can return to flirting with yourself?​

If I believe I am magnetic to the love, support, and community meant for me, the “how” is not my genius zone.

My responsibility is to tend to myself, to act when inspired, and to share what my higher self has asked me to share.

Magnetism handles the rest.

For posting on social media from a creator lens, you have to become strict about closing the app after you share. Don’t even allow space for self-doubt or overthinking. Post, then immediately say: ‘I am so grateful this reaches the people it was meant to reach.’ Close the app. Return to flirting with self-devotion.

If you log back into your social media and see that two people were magnetic to what you shared, wow! How beautiful is that?

You can focus on the right hook, sharing at the right time, or making sure you engage the right way… or you can approach it from a much more relaxed and aligned perspective.

I’m still learning to keep my focus on this framework, because every time I align with it, it quiets the unnecessary noise, which feels so much better for my nervous system.

Flirting with self-devotion shrinks the space between inspiration and action.

Shrinking the space builds confidence.

Confidence builds magnetism.

Magnetism builds aligned support.

Repeat.

The more I flirt with self-devotion, the more my higher self flirts with me.

All my love,

Ryen